Monday, January 18, 2010

Weekend before the crunchtime

Crunch time here at the office means I am days before my actual activity and it means I am stressed and pressured. But thank God and His grace we will be able to push it through, that's why I looked forward to the weekend.

Weekends for busy moms like me are sacred. Not only that this is the time for me to play the role of the mom, but also to rest and to reconnect with them. And that's what I did, especially with hubby.

One of our plans this year is to spend quality time together sans the kids. Talk things over, just like honeymooners or BF-GFs. Having this resolution is a big help to both of us. Admittedly, I missed him so much. :( That's why when we went out last Saturday, it felt good. We talked, roamed around the mall and eventually saw my former student who treated us to dinner.

At the end of the day, I love him. I do. Of course, I had my own version of Elizabeth Barret Browning's poem for him. But, that's for my Valentine post. So dear lurker/reader, my request for you is to be happy for us, don't be too wary but instead pray for us.

Thursday, January 7, 2010

The One that got away

When I saw this note in FB, I remember Infinite Grace. :) But I think it applies to us all.

The One that got away

In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with...and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess its the person with whom everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry...but the cards just didn't fall the right way, i suppose...

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a long time partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part or even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you're not ready and it shows. It's not that you and the person you're with are no good; its just that it's not yet right, and the little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day, you're ready...You really are. And when this happens, you'll be ready to settle down with someone. He or She may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it'll work because you're ready. It'll work because it's the right time and you'll make it work. And it'll make really will.

So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there's no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you're single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three doesn't matter...All you know is that you've changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You'll think about them because you'll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You'll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?" That's the one that got away. The biggest "What if?" you'll have in your life...

If you're married/in a relationship, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage/relationship is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you're mature enough to realize that you're already with the one you're with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage/relationship when you get past it. Sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but it's alright. Its never nice to live with a "might have been", but it happens.

Maybe the ones that got away is the one who's already married or with someone else. In which case, it's the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice a little smile to your lips in the future when you're old and gray and reminiscing...

But if neither of that is the case, then it's different. What do you do if it's not yet too late? Simple...Find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you'll always wonder, what if you got that one?...

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn't matter if you've dropped in from out of nowhere. You'd be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be a great feeling in the end to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you're the one who almost got away from me..."

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

So, how was your 2009?

My 2009 was the year I turned a year older and celebrated our 5th anniversary.

There were a lot of lessons learned during that time, and in those lessons learned it is with hope, faith and prayer that I'll be mature and wise enough in dealing with everyday situations and people.

How about you, reader/lurker? How was your 2009? :)

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Philippine Holidays and Long Weekend Schedule for 2010

Here is the schedule of Philippine holidays and long-weekends for 2010 based on RA 9492 and Proclamation 1841:

January 1 (Fri) - New Year's Day (five-day long weekend from December 30 to January 3)

February 23 (Mon) - EDSA Revolution Anniversary (holiday for schools only, three-day long weekend from February 21 to 23)

April 1 (Thu) - Holy Thursday

April 2 (Fri) - Good Friday (four-day long weekend from April 1 to 4)

April 9 (Fri) - Araw ng Kagitingan (three-day long weekend from April 9 to 11)

May 1 (Sat) - Labor Day

June 14 (Mon) - Independence Day (three-day long weekend from June 12 to 14)

August 23 (Mon) - Ninoy Aquino Day (three-day long weekend from August 21 to 23)

August 30 (Mon) - National Heroes Day (three-day long weekend from August 28 to 30)

September - Eid'l Fitr (to be announced, calculated September 10, possible three-day long weekend from September 10 to 12)

November 1 (Mon) - All Saints Day (three-day long weekend from October 30 to November 1)

November - Eid 'l Adha (to be announced, calculated November 16)

November 29 (Mon) - Bonifacio Day (three-day long weekend from November 27 to 29)

December 24 (Fri) - Non-Working Holiday

December 25 (Sat) - Christmas

December 27 (Mon) - Rizal Day (four-day long weekend from December 24 to 27)

December 31 (Fri) - Non-Working Holiday

January 1 - (Sat) New Year's Day (three-day long weekend from December 31 to January 2)

Monday, January 4, 2010

Positive vibrations, this way, please!

I think it's true :)

As I mentioned in my previous post, I'm leaving all the negativity behind (though I still have to light the incense) 2009 and looking forward to 2010. Got some personal good news and is hoping that it continues throughout the year. Yesterday was a sign of sorts.

While waiting for my mom at a Supermarket, I got the chance to see E, one of the people at the Registrar's Office where I'm finishing my Masters. We got to talk and I asked him if I can still defend even if I paid last term. He said it is possible since we have panel schedule constraints. So most likely one of my plans will push through the first trim of the year. It should be.

Got giddy all of a sudden. Wee... so, positive vibrations, this way please!!!

Saturday, January 2, 2010

So, what's your plan for 2010?

I'll still pursue my plans for 2010. And they are:

1. Take my CS Exam.
2. Defend my masters.
3. Financially independent and stable.
4. Have a fulfilling career as a working mom.
5. Will spend quality time with children. Set separate dates for each. (though I already started with the little girl)
6. Open an online store to augment my income.
7. Set Wednesdays for mass. To make it more as a commitment, I'll be hearing masses at the Shrine of Jesus.

It was a challenging 2009. No need to go to specifics here. One should not be affected with these things. Like what I mentioned in my previous post, I'm letting it go along with the fireworks. Maybe add some incense as well to remove the bad spirits and influences that surround me and my family.

As they say, life must go on. And I'm going to do that.