Sunday, March 29, 2009

Privacy and Respect

Privacy is defined by Dictionary.com as the state of being free from intrusion or disturbance in one's private life or affairs: the right to privacy while Respect is defined as to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with: to respect a person's privacy.Those are two very basic words but heavy with meaning.

I just can't help but be disappointed with the way they acted. Let me share this story that just recently happened. A disclaimer though: the things that are put here are my own account and experience. This is more a ranting session.

Just this weekend our community held a crossroads retreat in one of the retreat places in Tagaytay. It so happened that a show in ABS-CBN, particularly The Correspondents, asked permission from us that if they can cover our event as part of their report. Our admin person mentioned this to our elder, and automatically our elder said no because it's a private activity. So the production team left. They came back the second time and again asked since they are there and that the other group in the retreat facility allowed them to take their group, they asked if they could do the same to us. Again, the answer is no and that our elder mentioned that "When we said no, you should respect our decision and our privacy. I hope you understand." Into which they said they do understand. So we thought it was the end of it.

But on my way to the Ladies' room, the staff from the Retreat House and Bernadette Sembrano came over and asked if they wanted to talk to the elder. Right there and then I told her no, you cannot simply take videos. Hear me out, Sembrano says. Okay, I told her. She mentioned that the other group are elderly people and that she wanted to take the video of the community since we are young professionals and that we also attend retreats during Lent not just going to the beach. I told her that even if that's the reason, we would still not allow it simply because it is a private activity and that even if you talk to our elder, she will still give you the same answer. Even on our own terms. I told her even if we have terms, it's still a no. She said okay, and then they left. I communicated it immediately to our elder.

But we got the surprise of our lives when Sembrano is very insistent on talking our elder. She approached her and told her the same account. My elder told her that it's a no and you have to understand that. Then she became arrogant, saying, you're a catholic community and yet your staff are very edgy (read: mataray daw ako). Our elder said, yes, my people are edgy simply because you don't respect our decision. They ended still not covering us though I am wary because they might be taking videos of us while we're having an activity outside the conference room.

I may be bold in stating her name, yes, but my respect for her as a journalist or in that profession came down big time. I am a bit sad because they did not understand the meaning of NO. I wanted to ask though if they would allow us attending their own weddings, parties and affairs and take pictures of it even if they do not know us. Of course not! Then I think the same rule applies to us.

I guess we as individuals with no stellar status on our belts should not approve these people to step on us just to get a story. And they should draw the line. And our right to privacy should be respcted.

I would like to request you though: if you happen to watch correspondents and see us, do tell me immediately :)

Sunday, March 22, 2009

An "unfortunate" event

Though it is somewhat similar to the book, I must say, a lot has happened and I agree, it was unfortunate. This is just what happened last Friday.

Friday saw me attending the Baccalaureate Mass in the morning and fetching my daughter at her Kumon class in the afternoon. She had her achievement test, and she passed so that she can proceed to the next level. After her Kumon, we went straight to the ENT to have her ear checked. She was given an ottic solution so that her ear wax softens so that when Monday comes, the ENT will need to clean it out.

After the check-up we went to SM Manila to wait for hubby so that we can go home together. I was so looking forward to go home that day because I want to try the Hot Oil treatment that I got from Watson's as I am having some concerns with my hair, and at the same time rest because I have a lecture the following day at CSB (read: raket hehe). We decided that hubby will drop us off at the corner near our house so that he can go directly to his class in the evening. 

But everything changed in an instant. We met an accident. Don't want to go into gory details (well if you insist, just pm me). Bottomline, no one was hurt (though the little girl is shaking, I was irritated, my MIL was a bit nervous but hubby is still...calm) except for the other party (as of press time, he is okay) and our car.

Though I can say firmly it was really not our fault, but something happened and it is never be the same for us. It was a lesson learned and we will definitely learn from it. As of press time also, so far, I am okay. So far. I guess I am still in a state of shock and somehow, eventually, will really need to face it. How? I guess I'll take it a day at a time. I will survive this. Like with all my previous issues, if I can handle them, I am sure I can handle this also. 

My request - just pray for us and support us. Thank you.

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

25 Random things

Been tagged again... le sigh.

I am supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about myself.

Below is my version of the ’25 Random Things’. It’s actually my random musings:

1. I am still a perennial student (even if I lack my paper, I consider myself a graduate because I passed the compre and thesis proposal defense)

2. I want to learn basic photography.

3. I just recently finished the Wicked book.

4. I am now currently trying to lose weight (and I hope what I'm doing now is effective)

5. I'm taking a leave on April - almost the whole month that is. Still have VL credits.

6. I will do some personal planning come Holy Week.

7. Travel to some domestic destinations that I haven't been - Palawan, Boracay and Puerto Galera.

8. I want to have a house that I will call my own.

9. I'm part of a service team for an upcoming retreat (details to post here soon).

10. On that retreat, I will be meeting some people who I haven't met for a long time and somehow created a 'gap' between us.

11. Though we made up, it's through email and it's still pretty awkward up to now when we meet.

12. I want to have my own line of business/es, so that I can be a SAHM.

13. I am so busy with work lately.

14. I hope and pray that my little girl makes it to her finals and that she makes it to the grade.

15. My baby girl is now a lady. Now I'm getting old. Gaz!

16. Life is a constant change.

17. I am a fan of Sun Tzu.

18. I so like the smile of Elphaba of Wicked (aka Wicked Witch of the West)

19. When I sleep, almost all of my body is under the comforter except for my feet.

20. I also hate cockroaches - whether they are crawling or flying.

21. My kids' birthday month are the same.

22. I like to cook. Will do my own version of seafood curry and oreo cheesecake during my VL.

23. I love to eat out and have nightcap.

24. I love Makati Supermarket's Spaghetti!

25. I firmly believe that God answers our prayers, not on our time, but on His time.

How well do I know my partner?

was tagged by my MOH. Here goes..

1. He's sitting in front of the TV, what is on the screen? Lifestyle channel, anything about cars

2. You're out to eat, what kind of dressing does he get on his salad? a vinaigrette (spelling?)

3. What's one food he doesn't like? ampalaya

4. You go out to eat and have a drink. What does he order? something light and healthy

5. Where did he go to high school? Sta. Catalina

6.What size shoe does he wear? 9-10

8. What is his favorite type of sandwich? tuna

9. What would this person eat every day if he could? dark chocolate

10. What is his favorite cereal? di niya type

11. What would he never wear? something that he feels na hindi bagay sa kanya

12. What is his favorite sports team? wala

13. Who did he vote for? dunno....

14. Who is his best friend? jane

15. What is something he does that you wish he wouldn't do? hmmm....

16. What is his heritage? pinoy! tho sr. placid thinks he's indonesian...

17. You bake him a cake for his birthday, what kind of cake? chocolate mousse

18. Did he play sports in high school? parang wala hehehe

19. What could he spend hours doing? tinkering on the car, playing psp, sleep! ;)

20. What is one unique talent he has? he can sing (carries a tune talaga)

I just realized, there's no #7. Oh well..

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Wicked!

Finally!

I got the book! (Thanks to my dad, of course) and currently reading it.I can only give a bit feedback - quite interesting and enjoyable to read, and I am at the part where the Wicked Witch starts to become "wicked". It's a "pre" to the book of Wizard of Oz, and some of the questions that I have been meaning to ask was answered so far in this book.

To give you an idea:

* Why red scarlet slippers / shoes? Only to find out that those shoes are a gift of a father to his favorite daughter..

* Why her skin is green...

Those sorts of questions.

Can't wait to finish this so that I go on reading "Son of a Witch" :)

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Hectic Weekends

My March weekends never looked so hectic! Up until the 3rd weekend of April, I think. Let's see why it's so hectic...

March 7-8 - went home to Pacita
March 14-15 - Island Cove with the kids
March 21-22 - will facilitate a seminar then dinner with the household at Superbowl (we won during the Christmas party and it's our prize!) and the College Graduation on Sunday
March 28-29 - Crossroads Retreat
April 4-5 - Start of the Holy Week
April 11-12, Easter Vigil weekend
April 19 - My son's third birthday

I am so looking forward to the College Shutdown wherein we have no office. Gives me time to rest and spend time with my kids. I also have x number of leaves left, and I am still thinking when to avail them given some changes that will happen in the summer.

What I am not sure of is when we will be going to Pacita for the Holy Week and if we are to spend summer at Pacita as well.

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

50 secrets este 49 pala ;)

It's been a long time since I answer some surveys (I have an outstanding invitation to answer in my FB account, but I plan to put it here, but this is not the one - yet). So here goes..

50 LITTLE SECRETS
Be honest no matter what !

[ONE]How many times have you been in love?
- Thrice, I think hehe (if you want to consider your grade school days). But technically, yeah, three only ;) Honest!

[TWO] Your relationship status?
- Happily married :)

[FOUR] Have you ever lost a close friend?
- Hmm.. if died, none so far.. but left the Philippines, yes...

[FIVE] What is your current mood?
- Steady lang. Answering this so that I'll get sleepy :)

[SIX] Whats your brother(s) names?
- Francis Xavier :)

[SEVEN]sisters names?
- none. We are two in the family.

[EIGHT] Where do you wish you were right now?
- In our bedroom in our REAL home

[NINE] Have a crazy side?
- Hmmm.... yep, especially if things doesn't go my way and when my schedule gets haywire

[TEN] Ever had a near death experience?
- yep when I gave birth to my eldest one. Didn't contract that's why blood keeps on going out. Gory, ain't it?

[ELEVEN] Something you do a lot?
- eat, read, laugh, SLEEP!

[TWELVE] Angry at anyone?
- as of now, none ;)

[THIRTEEN] What's stopping you from going for the person you like?
- is it safe to say I'm married? Nah, kidding! I married the person I LIKE!

[FOURTEEN] When was the last time you cried?
- last week when I had a very bad dream

[FIFTEEN] Is there anyone you would do anything for?
- my kids :)

[SIXTEEN] What do you think about when you are falling asleep?
- what to do tomorrow hehe

[SEVENTEEN] Who was the last person you talked to on the phone?
- hubby's "stalker" heehee

[EIGHTEEN] What is your favorite song?
- too many! But if one - I will survive by Gloria Gaynor! National Anthem!

[NINETEEN] What are you doing right now?
- answering this survey, what else?!?! ;)

[TWENTY] Do you trust anyone right now?
- hmm.. a two persons only (the other all and the other not all)

[TWENTY-TWO] Have you hugged someone in the past week?
- yup, my family

[TWENTY-THREE] How many close friends do you have?
- a lot! and all from different degrees of closeness

TWENTY-FOUR] Describe your life in one word.
- colorful ;)

[TWENTY-FIVE] Who/What are you thinking of right now?
- hmm.. how to finish this survey!

[TWENTY-SIX] What should you be doing right now?
- shutting down this laptop and prepare for bed

[TWENTY-SEVEN]
Are you scared or worried about being alone ?
- sort of. But we will survive!

[TWENTY-EIGHT] Who was the last person who gave you a hug?
- my little lady ;)

[THIRTY] Do you act differently around the person you like?
- before, yep. Now, nope ;)

[THIRTY-ONE] What is your natural hair color?
- black

[THIRTY-TWO] Who was the last person to make you laugh?
- the resumes that the students submit at my office to have it edited. Full of grammatical and typographical errors!

[THIRTY-THREE] Who was the last person to make you mad?
- cashiers who doesn't have any change at all!

[THIRTY-FIVE] Is your hair naturally curly,straight or wavy?
- straight

[THIRTY-SIX] Has anyone ever called you "scrumptious" before?
- nope.. Bootylicious was more appropriate because of my behind

[THIRTY-EIGHT] Hugged the opposite sex in the past 3 days?
- yep ;)

[THIRTY-NINE] Do you use smiley faces on the computer?
- depends on what I'm doing. I can't do that on my thesis, would I? ;)

[FORTY] Plans for the weekend?
- going home to myin-laws then watch Zsa Zsa Zaturnnah

[FORTY-ONE] Are you happy with life right now?
- yup, forever grateful

[FORTY-TWO] Are you currently jealous?
- hmm... maybe...

[FORTY-THREE] What jewelry are you currently wearing?
- rings (wedding and engagement)

[FORTY-FOUR] What are you doing Friday night?
- supposedly watch Zsa Zsa Zaturnnah but it was rescheduled to Sunday night. So, will pack some stuff to prepare to go home to Pacita this weekend

[FORTY-FIVE] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- definitely. Life was not fair then

[FORTY-SIX] Have you ever broken someones heart?
- i think so. But it was for the best.

[FORTY-SEVEN] Is there anybody you're really disappointed in?
- oh yes, definitely.

[FORTY-EIGHT] Last person you saw?
- my father

[FORTY-NINE] How late did you stay up last night and why?
- 12 midnight because my mom and I talked some things

[FIFTY] How is your heart?
- so far so good...

Sunday, March 1, 2009

2nd phase of motherhood

I texted close friends about this 2nd phase of my motherhood. Just to announce, the little girl is no longer a little girl, but a lady already. At an early age too, just like me when I was during that time.

Now I have to deal with another phase in my daughter's life and that is pre-teen period. This is the time of exploration of another phase and level and that there are more serious issues that I need to deal with and help my daughter overcome those issues. And somehow my "nightmare" has began. Anything is possible, especially in this generation.

Now her guardian angel needs to work overtime. That goes for me also, praying hard that she will grow up loving God and be the woman God wants her to be.